Author: Vijay Nagaswami
Publisher: Penguin
Year: 2002
Language: English
Pages: 246
ISBN/UPC (if available): 0143028081
Description
Written in an accessible and informal style, the book combines real and fictionalized accounts to illustrate the more common difficulties of modern marriage and describes practical steps towards resolutions and personal growth.
Do you, like many modern Indian couples, worry about your marriage? Do you feel that your most intimate relationship could be more fulfilling and wonder how you and your partner can attain a deeper level of love? Psychiatrist and marital therapist Dr Vijay Nagaswami offers advice to today’s Indian couples who want to strengthen their marital relationship. He expertly guides partners through problems that they face routinely and identifies challenges encountered in both arranged and love marriages.
Written in an accessible and informal style, the book combines real and fictionalized accounts of illustrate the more common difficulties of modern marriage and describes practical steps towards resolutions and personal growth. Intended for all couples, not only dysfunctional ones, this is an indispensable resource for one of the least understood and discussed aspects of contemporary Indian life.
Contents
Acknowledgements
Let’s Start at the Very Beginning.
Ambika and Amar: No Dowry, Please. We’re Modern
Maya and Manoj: Calling It Off
I Do: Making the Primary Commitment
How on Earth Do People Get Married?
Maya and Manoj: The Way I Am
You Never Told Me This Before: Unstated Expectations
Ambika and Amar: Mammy Blues
There’s Parent in My Bedroom!
Ambika and Amar: The Pants Don’t Fit.
Who’s in Charge Here?: Control Games
Maya and Manoj: Trapped
Me Tarzan, You Jane: The Quest for Intimacy
Ambika and Amar: Where Have All the Storks Gone?
The Great Drift and the Great Escape
Maya and Manoj: Little Worlds
Cul-de-sac #1: Parallel Lives—Work and Other Addictions
Ambika and Amar: The Family on the Lawn
Cul-de-sac #2: For the Sake of the Children
Maya and Manoj: My Turn
Cul-de-sac #3: An Affair to Forget
Starting Over: Making the Secondary Commitment
Seeking Help
When All Else Fails: Of Recalcitrant Spouses and Divorce
Anita and Deep: Henpecked!
Last Words